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Of course my sense of humor is excellent. If I don’t think it’s funny, IT ISN’T FUNNY.

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Me, too.

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BUT IF ONE OF US THINKS IT'S FUNNY AND THE OTHER DOESN'T, THE WORLD WILL EXPLODE.

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Gene, are you having a conversation with one of your alternate personalities?

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I know Sarah to be one of the nicest, smartest people I know. And if she says it's funny, dad-gum-it, you best better laugh, amigo.

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"Dalrymple" is a funny name.

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Dec 4, 2023·edited Dec 4, 2023

I know. It's from Scotland, where it's quite common. A character in 'Brigadoon' is named Charlie Dalrymple, if I recall. And there was a Russell Dalrymple on 'Seinfeld.' How many times was Weingarten in either one?

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"Weingarten" has been in the comic strip "Frazz," and that's about it. Well, there is also this: https://www.washingtonpost.com/archive/lifestyle/magazine/2002/04/21/below-the-beltway/280770a8-b85c-4035-bc25-fe6c643bfe90/

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I'm particularly impressed that you have your own syndrome. You and Lou, who would have thought it. Not I. I'll have to research Dalrymple syndrome, just in case it's out there. If there is one, and since we're descended from Scots, it probably has something to do with being cheap asses. At least, that's my ASSESsment. Did you see what I did there?

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Seems there's conflation of KNOWING funny and BEING funny. I don't think they're the same.

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It's funny how most of us, here, in The Gene Pool, think we are very funny. I wonder if we really are. My grandfather was the comedian in the family. Interestingly enough, he did not like it when someone else was funnier than he was, especially well-known professional comedians, and most especially, my grandmother. She seldom cracked a joke, but when she did, she was, by far, funnier than my funny-man grandfather.

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It’s a cliche that the saddest day in a father’s and son’s lives is the day the son legitimately beats his father in one-on-one basketball. For me, it was the day I realized that my son was funnier than I am.

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I am now the comedian in residence. I feel your pain!

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Having a good sense of humor is (fortunately) not the same as being very funny.

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I think I can be pretty funny, I know I appreciate funny, but I think sense of humor also includes being able to be the butt of a good joke. When we started dating, my husband was relieved that he could tease me because his last girlfriend was over-the-top sensitive. Luckily I was trained well by both immediate and extended family. And luckily he can laugh at himself too.

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If you have a scent of humor, you can appreciate that a funny thing happened on the way to the pherone.

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Sorry. Changing your display name won't prevent you being sent off with a red card again.

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Dec 2, 2023·edited Dec 2, 2023

How many more do I need before I'm elevated to the Red Card Hall of Fame?

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I'll have to get back after consulting with the Puns and Similar Crimes Against Humanity division of Amnesty International. Although I suppose a finding of uncontrollable urge might work against you.

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A famous cartoonist once told the Sunday artist: Mr. Smith is not as funny as he thinks he is.

Of course, I’m as funny as I think I am.

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Someone who calls themselves funny is usually someone who is not self aware. Calling yourself funny is like calling your self cool or even intellectual. Those descriptions must come from someone else. So there!

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I object to "Someone who calls themselves...", it should be "Someone who calls themself..." to keep the number in agreement.

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Funny you should say that, you anti-intellectual faux-hipster.

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I remember the Lt. On "Good Morning Vietnam" that said he knew what was funny. (When he did not know.) Happens in life, too.

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my heart goes out to both your 15-year-old self and Suzy. It must have been agonizing.

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I think Suzy suffered more.

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Did I somehow miss what you actually did on the date or have you never gone into the specifics ?

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Yeah I'd pay extra for a write-up.

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Awwwwww.

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My daughter is exceptionally funny.

She must get it from somewhere.

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Raiders of the Lost Ark! Or was that so obvious that no one else bothered to mention it?

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Always fascinated me that while dramatic elements which appeal to basic emotions are largely universal — situations which make us angry or sad --- what makes us smile or laugh, on the other hand, tends to be pretty much subjective. At the same time, what we find funny has a good deal to do objectively with how whatever we're supposed to laugh, chortle or guffaw at is structured --- how it's set up and delivered or presented, in particular. The payoff or punchline is where the objective elements of humor usually morph into our individual view of what's funny. Btw --- if you're ever unsure about what's funny, there's the Humor Research Lab (aka HuRL) at the University of Colorado, Boulder, where I'm sure they would be more than happy to guide you into the weeds of yukability and beat a piece of humor of your choice to death in the name of science. I suspect these folks would make the forensic analysis of the "roo-roo" joke, late of these parts, look like mere child's play.

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As it happens, the last three paragraphs of this New York Times story quote exactly the advice I would give my *16* year old self - and did give to other 16-year-olds similarly situated https://www.nytimes.com/2015/06/17/nyregion/new-york-city-community-boards-welcome-teenage-members.html

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I sent in a story about trying to be funny around a famous comedian. Ha . . ha . . ha. So being smart about WHEN you think you are funny, well then, that's another category.

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As is so often the case with debates of all kinds, no one has defined what humor is nor what metrics might be used to measure it. Number of people laughing? That would vary wildly by almost any variable you can come up with. Remember the recently discussed "joke" about what you tell a woman with two black eyes? Is it possible that humor, like time, doesn't really exist but is only perceived in the circumstance?

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As with just about all aspects of the human condition, genetics and its intrinsic link to evolution play a role in having a sense of humor. How much is attributable to "nature" and how much to "nurture" remains to be determined (if it ever unequivocally will be) -- but, I would guess, with a tendency more likely toward the learned end of the continuum.. A gene has been identified --- which some call the "laughing gene" --- but, in reality, is one that seems to control the emotional response to different stimuli --- laughing being one such response. It's safe to assume that there are more such humor-related genetic indicators waiting to be identified. However, we do have a better feeling for the evolutionary role of humor as a factor in human mating. Presumably it was not enough to be able to bring home a side of mammoth, you also had to be able to come up with a funny thing that happened on your way to the hunt. On the other hand, being funny, as opposed to simply appreciating someone else being funny, I suggest (controversially), is a predisposition you are born with, and likely even more directly related to intelligence. Its effect or impact may be latent in some, but it eventually reveals itself in one or more of the multitude or shadings of comedic forms as there are. Being funny is excruciatingly hard to do well and simply excruciating if not so done. To which Gene and Pat can attest (bless their masochistic hearts).

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