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Could a lot of the "I caught my wife cheating" results come from cuckold porn?

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Excellent. You guys nailed it.

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AHA!! Superb cybersleuthing. Full disclosure: it was I who sent the question in question to Gene.

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Ah yes, good call! I bet this is a significant part of it. Also if you compare the same phrase but with "boyfriend/girlfriend" instead of "husband/wife", the results are about even.

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I googled these:

"I caught my wife cheating"

"I caught my wife cheating" -porn

1.6 million hits for the first search; 84,000 for the second!!

(In case people don't know, the minus sign in front of "porn" excludes all the results that have the word porn in them)

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Good catch.

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Haha😆😆😆 eating out with.

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ISWYDT: I see what you did there.

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That reply to Jacksie truly had me laughing out loud!

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WITH, Lynne, WITH. Really!

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Yes, I said “with”! The lack of “with” wasn’t something I want to explain.

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This is a very big generalization, but I think men are conditioned to be more possessive of women, and more fearful of being cheated on, and therefore more likely to suspect cheating. The possessiveness they feel toward women also leads to more cheating on than being cheated on, and the double standard that lies therein. Sarah W.

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Hard to drown out all the "noise" around the polls --- even as close most are to their margins of error and considering the time to the election and inherent issues with sample sizes. However, for what it's worth, the American U. history prof. who predicted the last two presidential elections based on his system of 13 "key factors," predicts Biden will again beat the "grab 'em by the democracy" guy. Allan Lichtman has successfully predicted every race since 1984, with the exception of the one in 2000, when SCOTUS decided it for Bush.

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While the curling fanatics video was funny, it was still an ad for a sportsbook. The emphasis on gambling on sports was the final nail in the coffin for my support. I won't watch the games. I won't buy the merchandise. I'm done.

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SNL recently had a great bit on sports betting legalization and commercials. Rock Bottom Kings. Bet when your gambling friend/acquaintance/family member hits rock bottom.

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Recently I was in a shoe store and while I was being fitted for shoes, my salesman said, out of the blue, that he was concerned about a young man in his family gambling online. I replied in sympathy, "No guardrails" and he said, "I'm going to use that."

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I thought the ad was going to turn out to be a PSA warning that the gambling jones has gotten so bad that people will bet on anything.

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I had no idea what the commercial was about and assumed it was for some sports channel like ESPN. I'm so naive. I guess I'll have to watch it again.

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Might the willingness to discuss one's sex life depend on whether one is married or not? I'm not talking about cheating here. Speaking from my own experience as a woman , I remember that young not-yet-married ones are willing to discuss details with women friends, then that pretty much stops for the time when they're married. Then the widows and divorcees, perhaps esp if it's been some decades since they dated, are ready to start talking about their revitalized sex lives with men whom they're probably not married to. Gross generalization, limited samples. But I've been struck by the reluctance to discuss sex life in any way among married women who know each other in my home town and talk about every single other thing. To the point where I've wondered how come there are any kids born to couples here.

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My experience is the opposite. I'm someone who's never been married, and I've NEVER discussed details of my sex life with anyone -- and I never wanted to hear about anyone else's, either -- ick!

And that's why I clicked "NO" -- but not because of a partner's privacy.

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Yes, I’m “trending” older 😜 but just adore Gene Kelly dancing to anything! Anywhere. Great clip I’ve ever seen before. ❤️

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I was thinking the same thing! What a delight to watch.

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Did you know that Mildred is the 3287th most popular named for a baby girl in 2024? The good news is that Mildred has climbed 246 places from last year.

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Shitbaggy? You would let a friend devote years of their life to a person who was betraying them? Do you also let friends walk around with spinach in your teeth? Or do your friends not eat spinach? Or have you no friends? I'm only joking because you called me sleazy.

I'm not a busy body but I won't let anyone fuck over one of my friends like that. I'm not going to hide information from a friend that leaves them vulnerable to more betrayal.

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Re: The clip with Gene Kelly and Sugar Ray Robinson. I am not making this up. My grandfather was the boxing coach at the US Coast Guard Academy, and he would make his team watch movie musicals with complicated tap-dancing scenes in them. He absolutely loved the footwork. I am totally dating this story, but he would watch Lawrence Welk only if Arthur Duncan had a tap dance performance and then turn it off.

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the latest political polling is indeed terrifying. Am trying to make sense of it all. I wrote this humor piece about polls a while ago while banging my head against the wall about the fickleness of polls, the capriciousness and increasing vengefulness of the "public" being polled, etc.

https://www.newyorker.com/humor/daily-shouts/the-results-of-our-public-opinion-poll-are-in

I am so worried about November that my stomach hurts

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Any way to share a link that gets us past the paywall?

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Thanks. Wish I'd seen the "text-only" link before I read it, though (I clicked through from the notification email).

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Although I understand the sociological interest in cheating, I think I have reached my limit on this topic. Can’t we talk about puppies and kittens? Maybe a unicorn? If we must, cheating among unicorns?

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Unicorns are notoriously horny.

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Could it be that men are more stupidly jealous and paranoid and prone to false accusations?

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Testosterone poisoning.

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I think that men and women do everything pretty equally in this respect. However, many BELIEVE that men and women operate differently.

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I am so tired of Trump. He never expected to win in 2016, but he did and he has been looking for revenge ever since then. I care very little about him, and if I ever have a list of problems he would not be on it. I survived four years of him. I can do it again. He might be in trouble if he goes back to the White House. Who will work for him that can get a security clearance? Or stay out of jail?

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We'd better tell Rachel you were found embracing a middle ground.

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Rebarbative heuristics are the worst!!!

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Thank you for introducing me to "rebarbative." I'll try to remember the word and use it appropriately.

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Lately it's hard to think of anything NOT rebarbative (that isn't Spring, small children, or household pets).

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